'm not saying the converse is true — that all force or sex is aggression ... only that when men and women act aggressively, they do so in a channel that leverages, unfairly, the powers and strengths of their respective genders. At the most fundamental level, it's about misusing the power you have. Usually, for men that's physical force and for women that's sexuality.
BTW, this is one reason for the sexual double standard for women, and the physical double standard for men. Another reason is that the failure to enforce a sexual double standard in women eventually causes society to revert to matriarchy, a/k/a, the stone age. But that's another story. A failure to enforce a physical double standard in men leads to barbarism. Again, that's another argument.
Some women bloggers, in the tone they use in talking about their own sexuality and past sex lives, are the moral equivalent of a man talking about all the times he's kicked someone smaller's ass — or physically intimidated a weaker person.