Bill's Notes

Cobb once wrote:

What Women Want.
What women want more than anything else in the world is to be heard out, understood and most importantly, forgiven.

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Elaborating on the first secret. What a woman wants is to draw you down into the deepest darkest recesses of her psyche and for you to tell her, whatever it is, that's it's OK.

Understand, fellas, that women do not want solutions to their problems. They want understanding of their problems. Women's problems twist them up in knots and they bel[ie]ve that these knots are written all over their faces. However we dumbass men are not paying attention [] and really cannot see these knots. All we see is what we want to see (and what we wish we could see). Women unknot themselves by coming to an understanding with someone else about what the problem is.

That means that when she takes you there, (which means conversation and communications) she doesn't want you to cut in and say "Look that's simple, all you need to do is just..." No. The proper response is, "Oh, I see why that makes you feel that way."

If you get her to say "Do you think I'm crazy?" or "Do you think I'm fat?", that means you are there at the end of the deep dark alley of her psyche. Affirm her and you win. Confirm her fears about herself and she doesn't need you any longer. In fact, watch your back.

OK? There it is. The secret of life. You happy now?

Wish Cobb had mentioned that a little earlier, like 1980. You don't know how many times I've been right there and didn't even know I was there. Punted the big moment, didn't even know it was the big moment. That's because at the time women were saying one thing when they meant something else entirely, you know, I was being a big dumbass and didn't recognize what was going on.